‘Tis the season for holiday-themed posts, I suppose. With that in mind, I decided to post about this particular subject, seeing as how it’s been on my mind in recent weeks…and seemingly every year, around Christmas, for the past decade or more.
Can someone please tell me exactly when and why it became so offensive to say ‘Happy Holidays’ instead of ‘Merry Christmas?’ Seriously, when did people’s religious beliefs start clouding their worldview to the point that they stopped seeing ‘Happy Holidays’ as a nice sentiment and started seeing it as an attack on Christ? Am I the only one who thinks this is absolutely nuts?
I’ve always said ‘Happy Holidays’ instead of ‘Merry Christmas’ and have preferred it for as long as I can remember. In total honesty, it has absolutely nothing (zero, nada, zilch) to do with my religious beliefs. It never has. Not ever.
It does have something to do with being inclusive – but probably not in the way you’re thinking. No, I’m not talking about being inclusive toward those who choose to celebrate one of the many “Christmas alternatives” (Yule, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Saturnalia, Festivus, etc.), even though that’s a very thoughtful reason to use an all-inclusive phrase.
I use it because it encompasses all of the holidays around this time of year. I start using it around Thanksgiving and continue through the new year. That way, I can include Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s Eve, New Year’s Day, and all of the other holidays I mentioned above. The time between late November and January is considered a ‘holiday season’ to begin with – so why not treat it as such by including the whole holiday season in your greeting?
‘Happy Holidays’ has been an acceptable greeting for decades, and there is even a song called “Happy Holiday” (which I constantly hear at work) that was written back in the 40s. I’m not sure exactly why this phrase has become so offensive in the last decade or two, but I wish people would stop being so offended by it and take it for what it is – a sincere holiday greeting.
Let’s be clear – saying ‘Happy Holidays’ is certainly not about “taking the ‘Christ’ out of Christmas.” I’m guessing this whole idea came about because Christians needed something else to complain about or another reason to hate all of those who are not like them. Though I’ve searched, I’ve really found no other explanation for the invention of what Christians call the “War on Christmas.”
Scary. “War on Christmas.” Shock and Claus! Sorry to break it to you, but there is no war on Christmas. Get over yourselves. If this is the biggest issue in your life, you have it pretty easy. You may want to find a hobby.
I’ll come right out and admit that I am not a Christian. I was raised in a non-religious household (but by parents who considered themselves Christians because they’d gone to church as kids and had been baptized) and permitted to research and find my own way spiritually. I identified as an atheist during my school years, simply because there was no internet, and I honestly had no idea that anything “in-between” existed – in our little part of the world, you were either a Christian or an atheist. Yeah, those in our one-stoplight town didn’t get out very much.
Back in the mid-90s, I started researching online, searching for a spiritual home and a nature-based path, and came across paganism. For many years thereafter, I identified as a pagan, although a “small P” one. In other words, I liked the nature-revering part of paganism and celebrating the solstices/equinoxes, but I wasn’t into things like spells, rituals, gods/goddesses, and much of the supernatural stuff. More recently, I discovered pantheism, and I think that’s a much better fit – like paganism without the magical things! (I did also briefly try a stint as a Christian back in 2009, but it only lasted for two months before I couldn’t take the hypocrisy, double standards, and patriarchy anymore.)
That said, as a non-Christian, I am not offended in the least if someone wishes me a Merry Christmas. To the contrary, I’m happy that they were thoughtful enough to say it, and I usually reply with, “you too, thanks!” (I never freak out at them about how I am not a Christian and am offended by this greeting…because I’m simply not offended by it.)
I am also not offended by the term ‘Christmas tree.’ Yes, we have a Christmas tree…we do not have a ‘holiday tree’ and never have called it anything other than what it is…a Christmas tree. I’m not even offended if you want to have a nativity scene in your yard, in your house, or in front of your church. I don’t have one of those, but I don’t find them offensive. (I actually really like some of the animal-based nativities I’ve seen, including these at Big Sky Carvers.)
Though I certainly can’t speak for all non-Christians, chances are good that the majority of them feel similarly – they’re not particularly offended by “Merry Christmas,” Christmas trees, Christmas lights, nativity scenes, Christmas carols, Christmas sales/events in stores, or even cards with religious messages in them.
Those of us who aren’t obsessed with this so-called “War on Christmas/Christ” have better things to do than to worry about whether or not someone says ‘Merry Christmas’ or ‘Happy Holidays’ – we’re grateful to hear either one of those. After all, it really is the thought that counts! Why can’t we get back to that line of thinking? I remember very clearly that it used to be that way – what on Earth happened?
I do believe in separation of church and state. Keeping these separate during the holidays is as easy as not using my tax dollars for your nativity scene and not putting it on government land. Doesn’t sound very hard, does it? This is not an exclusively Christian country; neither is it an exclusively atheist country. Saying ‘Happy Holidays’ isn’t any more of a war against Christians than saying ‘Merry Christmas’ is a war against atheists.
In my opinion, this whole “War on Christmas” thing was most likely cooked up by some of the more extreme fundamentalist Christians, who are always looking for ways to be offended by non-Christians. Then those from the opposite end of the belief spectrum, militant atheists, figured that if Christians were offended by ‘Happy Holidays,’ then they should be offended by ‘Merry Christmas.’ Really, it just seems to be the extremists from both ends who are bothered by this whole issue – the rest of us have better things to do with our time and prefer not to go around searching for reasons to be offended by things.
I will admit that I’ve been grumbling about the Christmas music at work this year (you may have seen me mention it on Facebook), but it’s strictly tongue-in-cheek…and it has nothing to do with the fact that they’re playing Christmas hymns in addition to the myriad other songs that pop up every year at this time. I’m not bothered by the subject matter, but by the frequency with which we’re hearing the same songs. Seriously, yesterday we heard two different versions of the same song – “The Little Drummer Boy” – played one right after the other! I realize it’s a Muzak station and is probably running from a computerized playlist. It would really be nice, though, if they expanded their song collection a bit, as well as adding some sort of algorithm that won’t let the system play two songs with the same title consecutively.
Also, if I hear “Marshmallow World” one more time, I may just snap and go burn a Christmas tree in an atheist’s front yard or something.
Seriously, though…can we please make this “War on Christmas” crap stop? If I say ‘Happy Holidays’ to you, it’s not because I want to offend you or “take the ‘Christ’ out of Christmas.” Likewise, if you say ‘Merry Christmas’ to me, I won’t assume that you’re trying to force your religion down my throat. (I’ve never thought that, btw.) We all know by now that Christ was not really born on December 25 anyway; that no one knows when he was born is a fact and not just some non-Christian propaganda. (That date was simply chosen to compete with the pagan winter solstice celebrations; the solstice was on the 25th back then due to chronological issues with the calendar.) Likewise, no one is taking the Christ out of Christmas if they abbreviate it as Xmas. The X refers back to the greek letter chi (looks like an X), which was used to represent Christ anyway. Therefore, saying Xmas is exactly the same thing as saying Christmas; it’s just for people who don’t have enough room on their signs to spell out ‘Christmas’ or for those who don’t feel like constantly writing/typing the whole thing. Christmas trees (even when they weren’t called that), caroling, yule logs, mistletoe, and many other supposed “Christmas traditions” were around long before Christmas even existed. See, even these traditions are all-inclusive!
Ok, enough rambling about this subject. I guess some will see me as naive for thinking people should just be nice to each other and stop looking for reasons to be offended. Others, especially those who remember the days when ‘Merry Christmas’ and ‘Happy Holidays’ were interchangeable, will probably think I’m just old school. Either way, I think it’s time to drop the “War on Christmas” stupidity and just focus on spending this time of the year celebrating – in our own ways – what makes the season/holiday(s) special for us. Whether it means celebrating the birth of Christ or just getting together with family and friends and enjoying a great meal, enjoy it!
Oh, and Happy Holidays (all of them)!